Friday, February 29, 2008

Annual Dunley Teaparty

Notwithstanding the many changes effected and about to be made in the Poor Law world, one thing remains unchanged, and that is the kindness and generosity which has been bestowed upon the occupants of the "House on the Hill" by the residents of Dunley Manor. As far back as 1922 the late Lady Herbert invited the occupants of the House to Dunley, this invitation being repeated each year until 1930. Since Lady Herbert was called to her rest, Sir Alfred Herbert has given the annual treat to perpetuate the memory of Lady Herbert. Owing to the increase in the number of inmates the affair has taken place at the House, the women occupying the dining hall, and the kitchen being used as an annex for the men.

On Friday in last week loads of good things to eat were sent to the Institution, including meat pies and fancy cakes to numerous to mention. The meal was served under the direction of the Matron at 5 p.m. The walls of the dining hall were delightfully decorated with branches of beech, the tables strewn with beech leaves as decorations, with pot plants and palms having a place in the centre of the hall. After tea each woman was presented with a bag containing a jam sandwich, chocolate, pint jellies, an orange, necklace and handkerchief, while each man received a pipe, tobacco, cigarettes, orange, handkerchief, cake, fruit, sweets and chocolate.

After tea the Master telephoned the grateful thanks of all the inmates to Sir Alfred Herbert, who in response sent his best love, and expressed the hope that all would thoroughly enjoy themselves. From 6 o'clock to 8 the programme consisted of gramophone records and songs and character sketches by several of the inmates. After hearty cheers had been given for Sir Alfred Herbert, the singing of the National Anthem concluded a most happy and enjoyable evening.

Andover Advertiser - 75 Years Ago - Dunley Manor Generosity - Remembering The Way We Were - 18th November 1932

Friday, February 22, 2008

Annette Lawford 1911 - 1998

My mother Annette Rosemary Pugh was born in Darjeeling on 8th August 1911. Her mother was Marion Fraser Arundel (known as Nina) and her father Lt-Col Archie Pugh, CBE, VD (1871-1923), a solicitor in Calcutta and later Colonel of the Calcutta Light Horse. The family lived at 7 Menlo Park, Calcutta and in Wales, and retired to the nearest hill station - Darjeeling - in summer. Her parents were married in Calcutta Cathedral in 1904 (see a report of their wedding in The Times of India and a photo here).

Annette had five brothers - Archie, Jimmy, Ivor, Michael and David - and the family lived at Cwmcoedwig, Llanfarian near Aberystwyth while her father continued his work in Calcutta, returning for the summer to Wales until he died suddenly at the age of 52. There is a charming memoir written by her cousin Ruth describing her own life in Wales and India during the same period, and a fragment mentioning Annette is linked here. Annette went to school at St Swithun's, Winchester and her brothers went to Winchester and Oxford.

Annette as a bridesmaid to her cousin Tony Powell Edwards in 1933.   She is second from the rear with a white stick 
Although she was quite sporting when young, riding and played tennis, at the age of 22 she had a bad accident in a car driven by her cousin Tony Powell Edwards. Her hip was smashed and as a result, one leg was shorter than the other. Thereafter she suffered from rhumatism and later arthiritis, and walked mostly with a stick, but never complained.

Her widowed mother Nina was married again in 1933, to Sir Alfred Herbert KBE, the industrialist, and came to live at Dunley, the estate next to Litchfield in Hampshire.

Annette was married in 1935 in Litchfield Church to Arthur Luxmoore, and soon afterwards she accompanied him on a posting to Egypt. Fairfax (always known as Fuff) was born in July 1940 but sadly Wing-Commander Luxmoore was shot down over Belgium in May 1940. Her brother Michael was also killed, in Italy, and another brother David, injured.

Annette met Patrick Lawford when he was out riding from Litchfield and she was pushing Fairfax's pram along the lane at Dunley. They married at St Peter's, Eaton Square in 1944. She moved to Litchfield Manor and Herry (Hereward) was born there in April 1945.

The family moved in 1946 to Wadwick, (then part of the Dunley estate) where they stayed for a few months before moving to the Abergavenny's estate at Eridge in Kent and lived at Danegate (where Piers was born in May 1947). They lived there until they bought their own farm in Hampshire, Stocks Farm at Meonstoke under Old Winchester Hill, and moved there in 1950.

Their life at Stocks and at Ramatuelle in the South of France can be found described in Patrick Lawford's funeral notes.

Loving France, she adopted many of Elizabeth David's recipes, turning out wonderful game casseroles and other herb-filled dishes. They entertained - mostly informally - all the time. A list of their many friends who could be found visiting or having them to stay can be found here.

She smoked when young - Sobranies - and loved a glass of wine - always Burgundy as claret didn't agree with her - and had a engaging habit of swopping her glass for her sons' if it was fuller then hers!

She read a great deal, but never threw anything away and so the house was always full of books and magazines. She maintained an account at Harringtons Bookshop in Parchement Street in Winchester for years so that Herry could buy whatever he wanted, when at school. Old Vogues and House & Gardens would date back to the 50s.

She was a great lover of opera and she could always be found listening to her favourite arias, and alway shad a copy of Kobbe by her chair. She also played the piano well, and had a lovely Bluthner grand from her mother as well as an upright Bechstein. Many happy hours were spent - especially at Christmas - while she accompanied us as we sang old nursery rhymes and other songs.

She also loved the theatre and they went regularly to Chichester, often with friends.

She swam in the pool at Stocks - and when that was too cold, at friends' such as the Balfours - almost every day in the summer, and could stand much colder water than any of her sons....

Annette died in June 1998.

Click the heading for more photos and here for Kei's poem about her grandmother.

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Pugh Family History

My grandparents' wedding in Calcutta in 1904. Archie Pugh is standing at Nina's left shoulder and her father, Sir Arundel Tagg Arundel, next to him. Others present include 'Puff-Puff' (in the middle next to Archie) and Eyelyn and his wife - fearsome Aunt Norie.

Pugh - PUGH - Originating from the Welsh AP "son of" Hugh which has subsequently been contracted. The first name Hugh came to Britain with the Norman forces of William the Conqueror. The 2nd Norman Earl of Chester was Hugh D'Avranches aka Hugh "Lupus".

Lovegrove & Abermad Estates

This is a whole new chapter on its own. A search for Loves Grove on the internet has thrown up a whole range of websites. I’ll include immediately below an extract regarding the Pugh Evans family of Lovesgrove (as the family there is known).

“In 1843, Lovesgrove, in the parish of Llanbadarn Fawr, Cardiganshire, was bought for £7,500 by John Evans (1804-1874), a prosperous lime merchant who owned a shop in Commerce House, Bridge Street, Aberystwyth. He married Elizabeth, daughter of Lewis Pugh of Abermad, Llanychaearn, Cardiganshire, adding his wife's surname to his own, the family becoming Pugh Evans. John and Elizabeth's second son, Lewis Pugh Evans (1837-1908) inherited Abermad following the death of his bachelor uncle, on condition that he took the surname of Pugh. Their third son, Sir Griffith Humphrey Pugh Evans (1840-1902) inherited Lovesgrove and built a mansion there in 1883. In 1873, he married Emelia Savi, daughter of Sir James Hills of Bengal. Sir Griffith Humphrey Pugh Evans was succeeded by his son, Brigadier Lewis Pugh Evans (1881-1962), who fought in the Boer War and World War I. He was awarded the Victoria Cross in 1917.”

My start point is Auntie Beryl’s pencilled note that an unidentified daughter (of Humphrey Pugh of Penycraig) married Evans of Abermaide. I have spent some considerable time trying to tease out the options, and can offer the following possible scenario (with the usual health warning!).

Given our earlier (and, it now seems, probably mistaken) association of Lewis Pugh and his son, David Pugh, with Loves Grove, I tried to establish a possible link there. However, the generational dates just don’t match up.

John Evans was born in 1804, and his second son, Lewis, in 1837. Our Lewis Pugh of Loves Grove, who was a grandson of Humphrey Pugh, was born in 1816, so there is no way he could be the Lewis Pugh of Abermad referred to in the above extract, as he is clearly of the same generation as John Evans. Equally, if a daughter of our family married John Evans, from either Abermad or Lovesgrove, she could not generationally have been a daughter of Humphrey Pugh.

So there is a clear disparity between the two records. Pause for thought….. There is one other possible option that could be drawn from Auntie Beryl’s information.

On the far end of Humphrey Pugh’s tree is another son, Lewis Pugh, noted by us as “of Aberystwyth”, as related to Auntie Beryl. Allowing for memory distortions by the story tellers of the time, and given the close geographical proximity of both Abermad and Loves Grove to Aberystwyth (or possibly surmising that what was relayed as Aberystwyth was actually Abermad), I suggest that this may have been conceivably the same person.

In other words, the Pugh Evans reference to Lewis Pugh of Abermad is to our Lewis Pugh of Aberystwyth, son of Humphrey Pugh.

(I’m making this up as I go along, but please bear with me.) Our record of Lewis of Aberystwyth shows him as a son of Humphrey Pugh (ie in the right generation for the Pugh Evans account), with a son, Lewis, marrying Elizabeth Evan, and having three children, Evan G, John and Lewis. Forget the son and his family, I don’t think they figure, and it’s just unfortunate that the same names keep swanning around in this complex overlap area.

Let’s assume for the moment that Lewis of Aberystwyth (Lewis of Abermad, if my theory is correct) had a daughter (Elizabeth), whom we’ve never previously identified. Then all the rest begins to fall into place. I’ll rest my case there for the moment.

Let’s come back to the Pugh Evans account. From Diana’s further searches, Lewis Pugh Evans, second son of John and Elizabeth Pugh Evans, went to Corpus Christi College, Oxford 1855-59. BA 1859, MA 1862. Barrister at law at Lincolns Inn 1862. Assumed the surname of Pugh by royal licence in 1868. Was subsequently an MP from 1880 to 1885.

David Pugh Jones Evans (!) (?), fourth son of John Evans of Lovesgrove (is this the same John (Pugh) Evans?), also attended Corpus Christi College 1860-64. BA 1864, MA 1867. Rector of Trefonen, Salop, 1874-78, vicar of Carmarthen 1878-85, and of Lampeter Velfrey 1885.

Griffith Humphrey Pugh Evans, recorded separately as fourth son (cf the above extract showing him as third son) of John (Pugh) Evans of Aberystwyth, attended Lincoln College, Oxford 1858-62. BA 1862, MA 1872. JP, DL, barrister at law at Lincolns Inn 1867. Became a member of the Legislative Council of India.

I have transcribed separately an article on Sir Griffith’s second son, Brigadier Lewis Pugh Evans (1881-1962), who had a distinguished military career after attending Eton College. His awards included the VC and DSO and Bar.

Finally, I include another extract on the estate at Abermad:

“A Lewis Pugh bought the Abermad estate in 1852, having made a vast fortune from the Copa Hill mine in Cwm Ystwyth. He died in 1868, leaving his estate to his nephew, Lewis Pugh Evans (1837-1908) of Lovesgrove, on the condition that he changed his surname to Pugh. The re-named Lewis Pugh Pugh, who was at various times an MP and Attorney General to the Government of India, had the house at Cymerau, up behind Glandyfi, built in 1905. His son was Major Herbert Owain Pugh (b. 1874), and his grandson was Major-General Lewis Pugh. The Major-General retired to Cymerau from the Army in 1961, lived in the house and developed its gardens until 1978, and died in 1981. A stained glass window in Eglwysfach church commemorates members of the Pugh family of Voelas and Cymerau. The property has now been converted into self-catering holiday accommodation.”

Talk about changing surnames back and forth! No wonder our job is a difficult one!

Friends 1950-1970

Click the photo to see it in full. Annette and Patrick having tea at the bottom of the pool at Stocks in 1967, surrounded by family and friends. Left to right: Tim Handcock, Belinda Martin, Cilla Clempson, unidentified, Annette (with Justin in her arms), Mike Lawford (probably - back to the camera), Annie Skipwith, Patrick, Belinda Luxmoore (kneeling), Jess (in chair), Nick Duke, Ricky Skipwith, Piers

Mervyn Archdall
Tony Ashforth
Julian Avery
Gilly Back
John Beveridge
Rachel Biggs
Michael Biggs
Carol Bowhill
Barry Bowhill
Jane Boddington
Tim Boycott
Nicky Boyle
Rosie Bryans (later Jenks)
Tim Bruce
Susannah Bulman
Marney-Jane Bulman
Christopher Butlin
Clarissa Carpenter-Turner
Robert Cecil
Virginia Chomondley
Cilla Clempson
John Clive
Louise Clive
Johnny Cooke
Georgina Cooke
Roddy Cooke
Paul Cook
Pete Corbett
Richard Courtauld
Julie Courtauld
Rosemary Curtis
Fiona Curtis
Mike Curtis
Angela Davy
Moira Dawnay
Richard Down
David Dowdeswell
Nick Duke
Frances Duke
Sally Farmiloe
Judy Forward
Sue Forward
Gillian Fraser
Jenny Fraser
Luleen Handcock
Anna-Louise Harder
Ian Hay
Denise Hay
David Hellard
Penny Hitchcock
Pauline Hodgkinson
Michael Holford
Mark Holford
Trish Holland
Vivien 'Hovis' Holt
Anthony Hulbert
Gervaise Hulbert
Vicky Hulbert
Ed Hutchinson
Tessa James
Penny Keeble
Sarah 'Weemus' Keen
David Keen
Willow Knollys
Tessa Lanyon
John Lushington
Mike Lawford
Richard Mack
Pooh Madge
Will Martin
Pete Martinez
Camilla Masefield
Delphi Masefield
Tessa de Mestre
Georgina Murison
John Lushington
Annie Ommanney
John Rendall
Christine Phillimore
Richard Pollen
Terry Porter
Harriet Pugh
David Rowland-Jones
Liz Rudder
Polly Saunders
David Scott
Charlie Skipwith
Lucie Skipwith
Rickie Skipwith
Annie Skipwith
Jonathan Stokes
Meriel Tuffnell
Rosemary Townroe
Lindy Tucson
Janet Trigg
Nick Tobin
Ann Vernon-Harcourt
David Webb-Carter
Bay Wells
Sandra Wake
Andrew Ward
Nick Wentworth
Bruce Williams
Ralph Wykes-Sneyd
David Walton-Masters
Giles Wingate-Saul
Belinda Wallis

Out of area friends
Sarah Coates
Venetia Hesketh-Pritchard
Caroline Pender-Cudlip
Eppy Morgan-Giles
Juliet Craig-Harvey
David Mallett
Camilla Shand
Philip Sidney

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Early Social Life 1950-1970

Will Martin, B'lin Wallis (in her car), Herry (on the bonnet), Piers, Cilla Klempson, Cilla's sister Rosie's boys (the one on the left being Robert, Edward and Anthony), Penny Hitchcock, Nick Duke, unknown. Photo probably by Rosie Bryans.

My earliest party memories (prior to ten) are of hunting for gold dubloons in a huge pile of sand at HMS Dryad, where the Navy held a childrens' party every year.

In my teen years we were lucky to be surrounded by friends with long-suffering parents and large houses. Summer holidays were spent playing tennis - at the Archdall's, Mack's and Hulbert's, the Duke's, the Cooke's and Kelburn's - and of course at Stocks.

I went to my first dance (black tie) at my Aunt Ruth's house at Warnford when I was about 13 and thereafter the winter holidays were filled with dances to which my parents kindly drove me - and picked me up from - almost nightly.

Particular friends were B'lin Wallis, Nicky Boyle, Will Martin, Annie Ommanney, Nick Duke, Charlie Skipwith and Tony Ashforth. There was a noticeable lack of 'pairing off' in the early years; as Annie put it, we enjoyed 'rushing around in a heap' too much. And the boys had the usual predeliction for toys -Scalextric racing on a huge circuit set up at the Ashforths and later in the Skipwith's squash court. And later, go-carting on the Skipwith's lawn or on the private lane at Stocks.

In those days, holidays were rarely taken abroad, and in the summer, I used to stay sometimes with Richard and Julie Courtauld (who lived in West Meon) at their house in Polzeath - Medla (which Richard still has). On one summer holiday I was sent to study French with 'Tante Lily' and on another I stayed with one of my nannies at her flat in Cap d'Ail. One winter was spent in Engleberg, looking after the guests of Frau Professor Hauthal (who's husband had taught Griffith Pugh to ski) and her daughter Elsa and learning to ski myself.

Sally Farmiloe's Coming Out party at Riversdown c1964. Nick Duke, Charlie Skipwith and I went as the three musketeers, in costumes from Nathan's. Here, on the left of the picture, Herry has changed and is talking to Charlie and Nick beside the pool. Sally Farmiloe was then Nick's girlfriend and I am with Penny Hitchcock. Photo by Tom Hustler 

Later Nick Duke, Charlie Skipwith and I were known as 'The Three Musketeers' as we could invariably be found at the same parties. Later still, when we had cars, pubs became important meeting places, coupled with racing about the countryside for no discernible purpose - a pursuit on its own

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Sunday, February 17, 2008

Schools 1950 - 1967

This photos is probably of 'Kingcups' with Herry squinting in the front row. Will Martin is on his right and Anthony Gilbert-Harris on his left. Those standing include Penelope Martin, Sue Howard, Elspeth Martin, Penny Jagger, Vicky Hulbert and Vinny Archdall.

While at Danegate, Herry went to a nursery school at Rotherfield for a term before the family moved to Hampshire. He then joined 'Miss Etheridge's' above the stables at Firhill House, Droxford - (then the home of the Hulberts) - where Will Martin and he were the only boys. Annie Ommanney was another pupil though eight months older than Herry. Thereafter Herry went to Miss King's (known as 'Kingcups'), whose schoolroom moved around from her house in the middle of Droxford and then up to The Grange - with a term at Carr House in Soberton, where Will Martin's parents lived.

Herry's prep school was St Ronan's at Hawkhurst in Kent (following Fuff and to be followed by Piers) from September 1953 and thereafter he went to Winchester from September 1958.

After Winchester, Herry read law at Southampton University.

Fuff was at Charterhouse, then Cirencester. Piers went to Stowe before studying medicine at The London Hospital. While studying, he shared the flat at Shouldham St with Herry but moved out when he got his first job in Poole.

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Saturday, February 16, 2008

Stocks Farm 1950 - 1970

Stocks and Harvestgate Farms in about 1973
Click on the heading to see some early photos of the family at Stocks. Click here for some photos of the farm and the valley

Following Patrick's farming training at Headbourne Worthy, Litchfield and Eridge, my parents bought Stocks Farm in 1950 with advice from Carlisle Sayer of Strutt & Parker and Jim Harris, an old friend from Litchfield days. Click here for a description of life at Stocks in the early days.

The Tithe Map of 1839 shows the farm being part of the estate of Edmund Lomax, who also owned most of Exton, but by 1930 it was part of the Leydene Estate owned by Lady Peel; Stocks being sold off separately when Leydene became the naval signalling centre. We bought it from a man called Hughes. The estate originally included a fine Georgian house in Meonstoke - the Manor House - and a huge thatched barn next door, both which were sold off immediately - the barn to the Biggs family who have it still. The manor later became home to John and Ruth Howard; Ruth being Annette's first cousin.

There were three cottages in Meonstoke and two on the down (known as 'Blackhouse') for the men, the foreman of whom was Reg Whitear. George Smith lived in one of the village cottages and Tyrell at Blackhouse, next to the Whitears. A cowman was employed for a short while - Taylor - as well as a shepherd - 'Shep' Frampton- who joined Patrick from Litchfield. John Spreadbury was taken on in 1950 and later his son Andrew. In 1956, Ernie Stiles joined them. John Spreadbury became head man when Reg Whitear died in 1965.

To begin with Patrick reared sheep and beef cattle as well as growing potatoes, sugar beet, wheat, oats and barley, but in time he gave up the animals and the farm became essentially a grain farm and one of the finest in the Meon Valley.

We loved living at Stocks and it was always full of ours and our parents' friends. In 1956 we had a hard tennis court put in and many games were played there. In the early days also, Annette used to drive us down to the sea at Hill Head almost every sunny day in the summer, until in the very hot summer of 1959 we came back from a holiday in France to find that Fuff had dug an enormous hole at the end of the garden with a mechanical digger where a large swimming pool was constructed, of which great use was made for the next forty years, not least by Annette, who swam every day in summer.

We also loved playing cricket - on the lawn or in the small yard beside the back door. Piers and Herry took on the names of their favourite cricketers of the time - Piers was Subba Row and Tony Lock and Herry was Peter May and Jim Laker. Bales of straw were arranged to stop the ball behind the wicket and it was till possible to score a six by hitting the ball over the chesnuts - a feat just about impossible today. Piers became a very useful cricketer at St Ronan's on the strength of all that practice!

We could also use the farm machinery - particularly the tractors, from an early age. Herry regularly did some of the 'corn cart' at harvest time at an age far younger than would be allowed troday.

We attended our schools and universities from Stocks, but holidays were mostly spent at home or staying with friends, although we did have holidays in Wales and in France.

In 1970 we bought the neighbouring Harvestgate Farm, owned by the Biles', when they retired, and in the early 1980s, Little Stocks Farm, bought from the Hendersons, who moved to Scotland. Stocks and Harvestgate Farms retain their separate names even today.

For a brief history of Stocks and Harvestgate farms from 1970 - 2002, when they were sold following Patrick's death, click here

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Friday, February 15, 2008

The Pubs of One's Youth

Photo Jim Goldsmith
I didn't drink until my twenties, but we used to spend a lot of time in pubs - particularly The White Horse in Droxford. Here we are in 1967 again - driving home from the White Horse after a session with Nick Duke and Charlie Skipwith (who lived at Studwell Lodge next door) alongside the 'Quarterdeck' of mainly navy stalwarts (Jackie Slaughter, Robert Hennessey, Ted Stokes, Jasper Haynes, Philip Skipwith and Ted Horsman). The drive home took exactly 4.5 minutes - the time taken for Eric Burdon to sing The House of the Rising Sun on a primitive battery-powered disc player on the back seat of my Mini Cooper....

Click on the heading for a Google Map of the route - via Watton Lane to avoid the rozzers...

Click here to read some of Charlie Skipwith's memories of life in Droxford in the 1960s

Click on this link to hear Eric Burdon again...